Dear Abby: My partner only wants to have sex if it’s a threesome

DEAR ABBY: I’m successful an unfastened narration pinch my partner. We some bask hooking up pinch different people, but only if we work together connected nan person. It was going great; I still sewage my one-on-one clip pinch my partner. But now it seems that alternatively of making emotion pinch conscionable me, nan only clip he wants to touch maine is if personification other comes over. What’s nan champion measurement to attack him astir it? Should I propose we extremity inviting group complete for that type of fun? — ADVENTUROUS LADY

DEAR LADY: Your partner appears to person mislaid liking successful one-on-one intimacy. If that’s nan case, you request for him to ain up truthful you tin set your life accordingly. Healthy relationships, unfastened aliases closed, impact honorable communication. If you are unhappy pinch nan measurement your narration has devolved, you person each correct to opportunity so.

DEAR ABBY: I americium 58 and a recovering addict. I utilized narcotics and intoxicant for 30-plus years, and now I person 20 months clean, convey God. Throughout my addiction, I had a friend who was my beardown supporter. I ever regarded him arsenic a friend, since he was location erstwhile I was actively addicted. 

Now that I’m clean, he wants to measurement it up and spell from friends to a relationship. Yes, I attraction for him, but he wants to get joined without first getting to cognize nan existent me. He’s a difficult worker who doesn’t portion aliases smoke. He conscionable useful and comes home. He’s conscionable nan type of man I’ve been looking for. Please counsel maine connected what I should do. — CLEAN AND SOBER IN FLORIDA

DEAR CLEAN AND SOBER: Your connection that this man wants to get joined without first getting to cognize nan existent (I presume you mean sober) you speaks volumes to me. It tells maine you are making mature, well-thought-out judgments, for which I congratulate you. He whitethorn beryllium conscionable nan type you are looking for, but postpone matrimony until you are definite that he knows and tin judge nan caller beardown and sober you.

DEAR ABBY: We person vegetarian and vegan friends. Over nan years, erstwhile we person invited them complete for a celebration, we (omnivores) ever make judge to see dishes that they will enjoy. But erstwhile they induce guests for dinner, they ne'er — ever — see a nutrient dish, not moreover a portion of chicken. 

I person asked astir and, apparently, that’s nan acquisition of everyone. Don’t you deliberation a small reciprocity is successful order? As it is, nan hospitality norm seems decidedly one-sided. If nan vegans interest astir (to them) inedible leftovers, they tin ever supply a doggy container for their guests. — ONE-SIDED IN THE WEST

DEAR ONE-SIDED: Please see this your wake-up call. Many vegans and vegetarians do not want meat, chickenhearted aliases food successful their kitchens. If, successful summation to what they provide, you consciousness nan request to devour animal protein, devour immoderate earlier you spell to their location aliases afterward. If this does not suit you, respond to their invitation pinch polite regrets.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine http://www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.