Dear Abby: My daughter is considering marrying a man who cheated on her

DEAR ABBY: My daughter, “Virginia”, property 27, lives pinch her boyfriend, “Ray,” connected nan East Coast and teaches kindergarten. Last month, she confided that she had caught him cheating. She saw texts connected his phone.

When she confronted him, Ray instantly confessed and was very apologetic, but he besides kept nan woman’s number successful his phone. 

Ray will soon beryllium moving to different state, and her occupation will extremity successful astir 3 weeks. Virginia is earnestly considering going pinch him and has besides mentioned marriage.

Her mother and I are divided owed to her mother’s infidelity, but we work together that we will counsel her not to enactment pinch him.

Although he took responsibility, cheating is destructive successful immoderate superior relationship. 

I person gone backmost and distant pinch Virginia via email, but sometimes she stops communicating.

I haven’t been harsh, but I did inquire her why Ray would support nan different woman’s number unless he wanted to stay successful interaction pinch her. 

Can you deliberation of thing other a worried dada tin do to thief nan situation? Obviously, Virginia tin disregard parental proposal and do what she wants.

I americium besides wondering what I tin opportunity to Ray erstwhile I spot him next. I neither want to springiness him a walk nor condemn him arsenic a monster. — STRONG DAD IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR DAD: Talk pinch your daughter, face-to-face if possible. Tell her that, arsenic an adult, she tin do what she wants, but arsenic a caring parent, you cannot enactment silent.

Remind her that Ray kept nan different woman’s number, which intends he intends astatine immoderate constituent to interaction her.

Explain that, to you, this intends he is little committed to your girl than he should be. 

As to what you mightiness opportunity to Virginia’s boyfriend, show him you are disgusted by his selfishness and dishonesty, and he doesn’t merit your daughter.

If you person immoderate much thoughts connected nan taxable you would for illustration to share, consciousness free to aerial them.

DEAR ABBY: What would you opportunity astir a man who offered his wife’s siblings an all-expense-paid travel to Paris, knowing that his woman could not see going connected specified a travel because of mobility issues? 

Full disclosure: The hubby and woman person been to Paris successful nan past (when nan wife’s wellness was OK), but nan hubby feels nan request to spell again and has nary 1 other to travel him.

His woman will beryllium near location unsocial to fend for herself. Somehow, this full woody leaves a bad sensation successful my mouth. Please group maine straight. — HOMEBODY IN NORTH CAROLINA

DEAR HOMEBODY: People pinch beingness disabilities recreation internationally each nan time.

If nan hubby has nan money to return his wife’s siblings connected an all-expense paid travel to Paris, surely he could spend to return his woman and a caregiver pinch him connected that travel down representation lane.

That way, she would beryllium looked aft and still beryllium capable to bask nan travel to nan grade that she’s able. Has nary 1 suggested it too me? 

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