Dear Abby: My daughter-in-law makes her husband sleep on the floor

DEAR ABBY: Our friend “Carrie” revealed to our adjacent friend group that for nan past fewer years she has been having an matter pinch her champion friend “Julia’s” husband. Their kids are champion friends, and they walk a batch of clip together, moreover taking family vacations. 

We person told Carrie galore times really this tin impact nan kids, which she acknowledges, but nan matter continues. This soiled concealed is becoming progressively difficult to support because we emotion Julia, but cipher wants to beryllium nan messenger. Should we show Julia, aliases hold until it inevitably comes out? — ROTTEN IN RHODE ISLAND

DEAR ROTTEN: Are you judge Julia knows thing astir nan matter and hasn’t chosen to disregard it? Julia has children who still unrecorded astatine home. If you spill nan beans, what will it do to nan intact manner they presumably enjoy? If you for illustration not to perceive immoderate much astir Carrie’s hijinks, show her you don’t want to cognize immoderate more. But I ballot for keeping your rima unopen erstwhile it comes to making nan revelations. 

DEAR ABBY: My boy and his woman person been joined for 3 years and person an 8-month-old son. She stays location to attraction for nan baby. My boy useful from location arsenic well. He has now taken a 2nd occupation to make ends meet, truthful 3 days a week he useful 7 a.m. to 3 p.m. and past leaves from 5 p.m. to 10 p.m. and returns location astatine 11 p.m. 

His woman believes successful co-sleeping, which intends she sleeps successful nan furniture pinch nan baby, while my boy sleeps connected a mattress connected nan floor. This has been going connected since nan kid was born. My boy besides does 80% of nan cooking. They unrecorded a 1000 miles away, truthful I can’t help. He is almost her slave. I don’t want to opportunity anything, but I would for illustration their matrimony to last. What should I do? — CONCERNED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR CONCERNED: The past point you request to do is interfere. Unless your boy complains to you astir nan arrangement, enactment retired of it. If nan business becomes intolerable, your boy will woody pinch it. 

DEAR ABBY: It’s been 5 years since my position arsenic professor astatine a mini postgraduate schoolhouse ended. I was forced retired aft 30 years of teaching, and 2 years short of my announced status date. I did thing wrong. The reasons fixed were vague. Being deprived of a coagulated mentation wounded maine deeply. 

There was nary severance salary and nary benefits. I mislaid a important magnitude of income astatine a important constituent successful my life, but nary 1 seemed to springiness that a thought. For a agelong time, I was heartsick. I cannot yet find it successful myself to forgive nan dean and nan president of nan school. But somehow, I consciousness I should. How do I get unstuck? I’ve really moved connected successful galore ways, but I conscionable can’t forgive. — HURTING STILL

DEAR HURTING: Here’s really to get unstuck: Find a competent lawyer who specializes successful wrongful termination and talk what was done to you. Follow nan attorney’s advice, and erstwhile you are decently compensated, you are apt to beryllium successful a acold much forgiving temper than you are today.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine http://www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.