Dear Abby: My boyfriend has a low sex drive — should I break up with him?

DEAR ABBY: I’m a female successful my early 20s, and I person been making love my man for 2 years.

I emotion him dearly and want to walk nan remainder of my life pinch him. He plans to propose earlier nan extremity of nan year, and we scheme to beryllium joined adjacent year. 

Sex pinch him is fabulous. However, I person a very progressive libido (probably akin to that of a teenage boy), and I’d beryllium bully pinch having activity each morning, time and night.

He, connected nan different hand, is bully pinch erstwhile a week, if that. I consciousness deprived and sad. We person discussed this, and he claims he knows he needs to improve, but location has been nary change. 

I don’t cognize if I want to opportunity “I do” if this is what matrimony to him will beryllium like. I americium acrophobic of him proposing now because I’m not judge I tin wed him if he’s not into activity arsenic overmuch arsenic I am.

Sex is an highly important activity successful my life. I had astonishing activity pinch a erstwhile fellow and person really contemplated reaching retired to him. (I wouldn’t cheat.) 

Must I settle? I don’t want to miss retired connected having activity arsenic often arsenic I want it. It doesn’t consciousness adjacent to me. I don’t want to extremity nan narration because he’s everything other I want.

He’s a bully man, loving, generous, kind, thoughtful, funny, intelligent, a awesome conversationalist, fun, adventurous, but pinch almost nary activity drive. Can you connection immoderate insight? — MISERABLE IN MISSISSIPPI 

DEAR MISERABLE: You are young and, I assume, location isn’t a awesome property quality betwixt you and your boyfriend.

When this different perfect man pops nan question, your consequence should beryllium that earlier you judge his proposal, you want nan 2 of you to person premarital counseling.

During immoderate of those sessions, bring up nan disparity successful your activity drives. There whitethorn beryllium much than 1 measurement to lick your problem.

Discuss this pinch a licensed activity therapist who tin thief you research really you tin beryllium much satisfied without your fellow emotion “forced to perform.” 

DEAR ABBY: I became a grandma 20 years ago. My first grandchild was biracial, and I fishy that’s nan logic my champion friend, “Dori,” ne'er acknowledged her. When I sent her photos by message a fewer times, they went unacknowledged.

Now, 20 years later, Dori has yet go a grandma done adoption. Although I americium happy for her, it stings that my 4 grandchildren were ignored. I person sent generous babe gifts.

How do I move past my resentment without making a fuss? I don’t want my grandchildren to ever meet her, arsenic I consciousness immoderate liking would beryllium idle curiosity and not sincere. Dori has ne'er moreover asked maine their names. — BITTER IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR BITTER: Why do you mention to this female arsenic a “best friend”? From what you person written, Dori stopped being your friend 20 years ago.

You were thoughtful to person sent her grandchild “generous gifts” (or immoderate gift astatine all). As I spot it, location is much than 1 measurement to woody pinch this situation.

The first would beryllium to aerial your feelings to Dori. The 2nd is to proceed surviving your life without her successful a starring role.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.